I got introduced to another one of those mind-expanding concepts today, this time by the lovely Hiro Boga. I’m talking to her for help finding clarity around the What the Heck Am I Doing With My Life question. She is a prominent member of the group of people I’ve taken to calling the Havi-verse, ie, people in the orbit of the aforementioned Havi.
Here is the amazing new idea that I learned today from Hiro. If you have yourself geared up for something– a phone call, a visit, a project, a conversation, whatever– and that thing does not happen when you expected it to for whatever reason, that it makes sense to feel a little confused and uncertain about what to do next. The idea is that the energy built up to meet whatever had been expected to come down the pike, if thwarted, could feel stuck and incomplete, and that when things are complete is when you are available to switch gears. And that until you have that completion, the confusion and uncertainty would be normal and natural. As Phoebe once said on Friends (I love that show), that is brand new information!
I don’t think I can say much more than that, because I need to spend the rest of my day wrapping my mind around this incredible concept. It’s like, oh, the whole Get Over It mentality doesn’t make sense from an energetic perspective? What? All those times when someone canceled on me at the last minute or when something I was expecting to do couldn’t happen for some reason, it was perfectly normal to feel cut adrift from the little current on which I’d been bobbing along?
Wow. There’s more, of course, about how when that kind of situation comes up you pay attention to how you are feeling and you check in with yourself and figure out what you need to do for yourself, but I’m going to hang out with this first big idea for a while and make friends with it some more first. It’s kind of nice to be told for the first time ever that something you thought of as a huge personal failing totally made sense and was in fact not a failing at all but an indicator of something good (the sensitivity to notice the confusion and not just motor past it).
I’m stopping there. That’s as much as I want to say today. Feel free to share my awe at this genius new idea. Thank you, Hiro!
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I must say, I’ve never thought of it that way. This situation happens to me a lot and I feel completely side-swiped and lost for a time. Maybe not so much now.