Comments on: Day 48: It’s not paranoia if they’re really out to get you http://www.darxyanne.com/2009/12/day-48-its-not-paranoia-if-theyre-really-out-to-get-you/ Oh that there was a tidy little phrase that could sum up everything I want to say to the world Sat, 04 Sep 2010 01:33:55 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Steve http://www.darxyanne.com/2009/12/day-48-its-not-paranoia-if-theyre-really-out-to-get-you/comment-page-1/#comment-318 Steve Thu, 28 Jan 2010 22:45:16 +0000 http://www.darxyanne.com/?p=1097#comment-318 Let's start a co-op and put our brothers in it. Then at least we can have some variety in the boring interactions and/or avoidance. .-= Steve´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.twistingroad.com/2010/01/continuity-forced-out/" rel="nofollow">Forced Continuity Is Being Forced Out!</a> =-. Let’s start a co-op and put our brothers in it. Then at least we can have some variety in the boring interactions and/or avoidance.
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]]> By: Darcy http://www.darxyanne.com/2009/12/day-48-its-not-paranoia-if-theyre-really-out-to-get-you/comment-page-1/#comment-275 Darcy Mon, 21 Dec 2009 13:44:28 +0000 http://www.darxyanne.com/?p=1097#comment-275 Sherron, wow, do I totally understand. Brothers, for crying out loud, what is with them?? I know that as boys they aren't socially conditioned to keep the family connections alive and strong the way we are, but still. Frustrating. I feel like I'd be able to have a relationship with my family... if I was willing to do all the work to keep it going. And the guilt of not having a good relationship with them, because I feel like I *should*, kind of undoes any potential benefit of saying screw it and deciding to just wash my hands of it all and go about my own life. I'm still figuring out how to navigate the whole business in a way that feels more like winning than losing. Sherron, wow, do I totally understand. Brothers, for crying out loud, what is with them?? I know that as boys they aren’t socially conditioned to keep the family connections alive and strong the way we are, but still. Frustrating.

I feel like I’d be able to have a relationship with my family… if I was willing to do all the work to keep it going. And the guilt of not having a good relationship with them, because I feel like I *should*, kind of undoes any potential benefit of saying screw it and deciding to just wash my hands of it all and go about my own life. I’m still figuring out how to navigate the whole business in a way that feels more like winning than losing.

]]> By: Sherron http://www.darxyanne.com/2009/12/day-48-its-not-paranoia-if-theyre-really-out-to-get-you/comment-page-1/#comment-271 Sherron Sun, 20 Dec 2009 03:45:50 +0000 http://www.darxyanne.com/?p=1097#comment-271 I'm glad your brother called you back! My brother lives in Nevada (I'm in Texas) and we rarely talk, either. He never calls me (unless he happens to remember my birthday) and when I call him, it's pretty clear he doesn't want to talk. We don't have that much in common, but that doesn't mean I'm not interested in his life, ya know? I get annoyed because it's so freakin' hard to keep in touch with my family. They don't return e-mail or phone calls or letters. I just give up. But then I feel guilty when one of them says they haven't heard from me in AGES or wants to know how {insert relative I never talk to, but "should"} is doing. Family! Gah! I'm with you and Elise. Rant-rant-rant! :-) I’m glad your brother called you back! My brother lives in Nevada (I’m in Texas) and we rarely talk, either. He never calls me (unless he happens to remember my birthday) and when I call him, it’s pretty clear he doesn’t want to talk. We don’t have that much in common, but that doesn’t mean I’m not interested in his life, ya know? I get annoyed because it’s so freakin’ hard to keep in touch with my family. They don’t return e-mail or phone calls or letters. I just give up. But then I feel guilty when one of them says they haven’t heard from me in AGES or wants to know how {insert relative I never talk to, but “should”} is doing. Family! Gah! I’m with you and Elise. Rant-rant-rant! :-)

]]> By: Darcy http://www.darxyanne.com/2009/12/day-48-its-not-paranoia-if-theyre-really-out-to-get-you/comment-page-1/#comment-270 Darcy Sat, 19 Dec 2009 20:27:57 +0000 http://www.darxyanne.com/?p=1097#comment-270 Oh, Elise, your rants are so entirely welcome here, please don't apologize. Especially when your rant echoes my own thoughts of the kind of things I would love to say sometimes. They ask me what's going on with me and there's plenty, just nothing I'm willing to share. My brother actually called me back last night (after I fell asleep, alas), so I at least had a voicemail's worth of an update to give my uncle when he asked (the only one, thank heavens). For the record: brother's doing fine, the weather where he lives is crappy. Oh, Elise, your rants are so entirely welcome here, please don’t apologize. Especially when your rant echoes my own thoughts of the kind of things I would love to say sometimes. They ask me what’s going on with me and there’s plenty, just nothing I’m willing to share.

My brother actually called me back last night (after I fell asleep, alas), so I at least had a voicemail’s worth of an update to give my uncle when he asked (the only one, thank heavens). For the record: brother’s doing fine, the weather where he lives is crappy.

]]> By: Elise http://www.darxyanne.com/2009/12/day-48-its-not-paranoia-if-theyre-really-out-to-get-you/comment-page-1/#comment-269 Elise Sat, 19 Dec 2009 14:46:49 +0000 http://www.darxyanne.com/?p=1097#comment-269 Darcy, what an amazing yet sad metaphor - a wheel with the hub gone. I have the same communication issue, too. My brother is pretty anti-me; I am lucky to even get a Christmas card from him; yet everyone seems to want to know what he's been doing. My mom is living on a ranch in Texas and she's rather eccentric, so I get lots of questions about her status, too. I just want to scream, right by the punchbowl, "Look! My brother hates me, and my mom is irreversibly damaged by being married to a terrible person for the best years of her life, WTF do you want me to say about how they are when most days I can't even figure out what is up with me?!?!!?" Sorry for the rant. Darcy, what an amazing yet sad metaphor – a wheel with the hub gone.

I have the same communication issue, too. My brother is pretty anti-me; I am lucky to even get a Christmas card from him; yet everyone seems to want to know what he’s been doing. My mom is living on a ranch in Texas and she’s rather eccentric, so I get lots of questions about her status, too. I just want to scream, right by the punchbowl, “Look! My brother hates me, and my mom is irreversibly damaged by being married to a terrible person for the best years of her life, WTF do you want me to say about how they are when most days I can’t even figure out what is up with me?!?!!?”

Sorry for the rant.

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